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You're In 2nd Degree Burnout
Mama, you need to take care of yourself ASAP! The warning signs have been going off and it's likely you're not listening. No judgement, as I've been there myself. You're burning the candle at both ends. And you're not alone, as 90% of moms are experiencing some level of burnout, but your's is the severe level. You're likely pushing through each day feeling exhausted and have no idea how you will make it through your day. And by the end of the day, despite being exhausted and wanting nothing more than to sleep, you can't! Your focus and memory are not what they used be and you seem to forget things more often than normal. Your fatigue and overwhelm likely have left you short-tempered or perhaps in tears. You may find your parenting skills are not what you want them to be and you're feeling guilty about it. You may find yourself over-indulging in alcohol and/or food, or perhaps are using these things on a regular basis to cope with your feelings. Again, no judgement! This is what happens when burnout gets worse. Healthy coping mechanisms go out the window. Finding time to engage in exercise or cooking healthy meals feels like another thing on your to do list.Second Degree Burnout is very serious and it's time to make self-care a priority. Yes, it's hard to find the time as us GenX moms are frequently in a "sandwich situation,"raising our own kids while caring for our aging parents. Often we are trying to parent, while grieving the loss of our own parent. But no one is going to make this time for you but you! Burnout escalates quickly, add one more issue to your plate, and you can find yourself in 3rd Degree Burnout fast! And if you're experiencing menopausal symptoms, burnout is more difficult to deal with. It's not easy going through menopause while your child is going through puberty!Many people with 2nd Degree Burnout set high standards for themselves and struggle with perfectionism. Moms who score in this high range of burnout also have difficulty saying "no" or asking for help. They also tend to have at least one energy vampire in their life, depleting their energy. Additionally, setting boundaries and being assertive without guilt are very difficult with moms who score in this range of burnout.Burnout is serious and it doesn't just go away. It can lead to serious physical and mental health issues. Plus, you worked hard to become a mom, don't let these precious moments just pass. You don't want to look back when your kids are grown and say "I wish I enjoyed that time more." And, you deserve to enjoy your life outside of being a mom without guilt. Balance is possible. And remember, kids learn by what we DO, not what we say. If you aren't modeling this for them, they are likely to follow in your footsteps. And if you don't want this for them, why is it ok for you? As a fellow Gen-X mom, I want you to know you're not alone. Being a mom is the hardest job in the world and when you start the journey in your 40's, it's a whole new ballgame. As a psychologist, certified coach, and mama of two Alpha generation boys, I get it! I've worked with hundreds of moms to help them live their best life and make the most of their precious time. After all, time is the one thing we are all running out of, can't buy more of, and will never get back. Make the time you have left filled by joy and happiness. You're worthy of this.If you want to overcome your burnout and work together, click the link below. If you're not ready to work together, no problem. Just by taking this quiz you're now part of my Gen-X Mama community! You'll receive weekly emails from me filled with valuable information to help you along your mama journey. Welcome Mama, I value your time and I'm so happy to be on this amazing parenting ride with you!With love,Dr. Cynthia
